Finding Quality Men in this town

isn't it fun to just have a crush for a distraction? i miss crushes. i guess i just miss liking guys. i feel like it's been awhile since i've liked someone. really long since i REALLY liked someone.
a girl asked me, "are you single and happy or single and looking?"
well, i thought, i'm not single and looking, but am i happy?
and for the most part i am happy with being single. but let's be real, if you met someone great, you both clicked, would you really want to stay single?

so the question, how do i meet men?
off the top of my head, the prime targets:
-through friends
-never really was hopeful with this option
-work
- i work in female-ville. so unless i want to date someone younger or way older, i'm at a lost.
-some sort of extra-curricular activity
- again limited as i do few extra curricular activities anymore. i'm no longer active in social/cultural clubs, sports, or go to church or anything like that.
-from online
- i have considered this option but decided to put that on hold til i really want to go for it. i've looked at some dating sites for fun and even that, i realized something. i'm really picky and judgmental. i'm just judging from a profile pic and what their profile says and there are a few that interest me. and really, you can't tell how you interact with someone unless you meet them in person. although that's not really the case anymore in this cyber-age.
-some of the places i frequent (i.e. restaurants, clothing stores, amoeba)
- i don't have the lucky quality of my sister being cute and flirty to stranger guys, so i don't get guys throwing out their number to me as i shop at the market. i have seen it happen to my sister, and i am amazed and creeped out at the same time.
-the nightclub and bar
- it's really sad is that this is the most likely place that i do meet guys and usually has to do in an under the influence state, with dark lighting, and with other false pretenses (like how we are dressed at our best/sluttiest at these things). and i come with a bad attitude, i don't want to meet my future boyfriend from a club.

OK, as i wrote these things i realized a problem. The problem is MY ATTITUDE. i keep stressing the importance of your perspective going into something, and look at my attitude towards finding a man in l.a. I 'm very pessimistic. I practically think it's impossible to meet quality men in l.a. The times that i do meet some cool guys or cool people in general is when i'm feeling positive, friendly, and socialable.

okay, so conclusion. be more optimistic. bring a positive mindset and actually make an effort to find love. LOVE?! well not to find love, just to find some interesting cool people in general that i would like to spend some time with. Most important, i need to bring on the confidence and friendliness. never an easy task.